What Am I Doing Here?
Posted by Iain on April 5, 2019, 5:05 p.m. in Immigration
A client of ours, seven days off the plane in Wellington, has today signalled his displeasure with the impact of “damp". Yes, that’s right, damp. He is thinking of returning to South Africa. While it would be easy to dismiss this as a little silly given he’s only been in the country a few days, it does highlight a very genuine problem that we have as immigration advisers.
How can you prepare people for all the differences they are going to find when they immigrate anywhere and the insecurities they are almost always going to feel? We are not trained Psychologists, but in fact much of what we do falls squarely in the realm of that discipline.
We do have reasonable numbers of clients having (or choosing) to get work in Wellington in order to get the additional points for a job offer under the skilled migrant category. When the government of New Zealand forces people to get jobs in order to secure enough points to gain residency, sometimes they don't have any choice. They go where their skills are needed, not necessarily where they want to live. I warn everybody in every consultation where ‘windy’ Wellington might be a possibility that it is very trendy and cool and on a sunny day it is probably one of the prettiest cities in the world. It is the kind of city where you can live, work and play in the central business district. Lots of museums, theatres, restaurants and cafes but the truth is sunny, calm and windless days are few and far between.
At my seminars I usually say something along the lines of "If New Zealand or Australia was exactly the same as… (insert Singapore/Malaysia/South Africa/UK)… what is the point in moving there? It has to be different doesn't it, or you might as well stay where you are”.
Yet it is those very differences that create, often within a few weeks or months the question in migrants’ minds, "What the hell was I thinking? What am I doing here? This is not like home. This plan is never going to work out for me”. That is when some can get a hankering to return home. In the case of this young client, after six days.
Obviously, one size does not fit all when it comes to our advice. We have plenty of clients who have arrived and live in Wellington that don't seem bothered by the climate. Or much else for that matter. I tell everyone that of all the places I could choose to live in NZ, I could not live in Wellington. For that very reason. Climate. What I don't like however doesn't set the standard and we have many clients, particularly from South Africa, and Singapore along with the Philippines, blissfully happy in that city.
A few months ago I wrote a blog called "The six week wall" and it was my attempt to try and help people understand how their emotions and feelings might change over the first six weeks or so once they have stepped off the plane. Excitement and curiosity is replaced by disappointment and frustration, then fear….as the rejection emails roll in for jobs critical to the success of the long term visa strategy.
In that piece I tried to put into words the insecurity and vulnerability many feel and pointed out that you wouldn't be human if you did not feel like that when you are in a "strange" land, usually having resigned your job, having left the family behind and then being made to feel somewhat alien in a labour market you’d be right to perceive (but incorrect in reality) as somewhat hostile to migrants (you must have a work visa to get the job but you can’t get the job without the visa).
Remember, employers are not anti-immigrant, they are most certainly ‘anti’ dealing with visas and the Immigration Department. No one wants to deal with the Immigration Department in New Zealand any more than anyone wants to deal with any immigration department anywhere on the planet. Like most, our Immigration Department is a shambles and worse than a three ring circus.
I give two pieces of advice to people when I sit down to consult with them, particularly in South Africa, but not limited to this market.
The first is that there are no shortcuts to finding jobs and it is seldom as easy as applying online from the comfort of your living room couch overseas. Statistically, with 94% of all job specific work visas issued while the migrant is in New Zealand, for every one person that can secure employment without leaving home, nine more must get on that plane in order to create the future for them and their family that they want. The process is in the end, Darwinian, the ‘fit and strong’ survive. You go where you need to go to get the job that gives you the points. And suck up the differences, be they cultural, linguistic, or climatic.
From New Zealand's perspective, I have to say for those who do get to the top of this ‘mountain’, the country gets incredibly committed, positive and of course, employable migrants. The sad reality however for those that cannot afford good advice or think they can negotiate the process without professional assistance, many (I would hazard a guess, most) will perish on the slopes. Half will never get on the plane to go to New Zealand to climb the mountain, because they don't have the stomach or the money for it, and of the half that do get off the plane probably 50% of them will run out of money, or enthusiasm or they just plain can't take the emotional pressure and head home.
The second piece of advice I give is that my team and I cannot, even after all these years of helping clients, adequately prepare people emotionally for that first 6 to 12 weeks when they get off the plane. I say to people in consultations "Think about it – you will have resigned your job, you have left your loved ones behind, left behind your security (real or perceived), you’ve likely dropped from two incomes to one and even with all the (social media) research in the world, until you are out there in the labour market trying to find work you cannot really know how awful an experience it going to be. You will feel vulnerable and you will feel insecure. There will be many dark days and lonely nights ahead”.
Usually people look at me, especially in South Africa, nod and tell me they are up for the challenge because they must be. They must get the children out of South Africa and they must create a better future for the family. I agree, there is little about the future of South Africa that looks bright for minorities but none of that is of any interest to my government or the employers of New Zealand.
I gave a seminar in Durban on Monday night. I wasn't feeling that well and I confess I was pretty negative on the whole stupidity of the way New Zealand and Australia select their immigrants. I was particularly dark over the fact that New Zealand forces people to take such incredible, yet calculated, risks in order to secure residence. I even said at the end, "I wouldn't blame you if you didn't make appointments to come and see me’ but the usual numbers lined up and I've been seeing them all week.
I always tell people that at IMMagine we will tell them what they need to know not what they want to hear. We do not sugarcoat the process and would not ‘sell’ Australia or New Zealand as ‘paradise’. I remember one woman who had sat in the crowd and glared at me sternly all evening booked a consultation and I met with her and her partner yesterday. What she said about my presentation was "There was no bullshit and that's what I appreciated”. Praise be.
Right now we are moving approximately 360 families to New Zealand and virtually all are going to require jobs in order to secure residence. I know that there will probably be six or eight of them who will come to New Zealand and not find work. That is all. I know that because my team and I tell things how they are and in doing so it seems we put off many and only represent the strong(ish). It seems we better manage people's expectations, in particular and critically, to get them through those first 6 to 12 weeks while it feels like it has all been for nothing and is destined for failure.
Don't believe the marketing of the New Zealand government. Migration is a very high stakes game, you cannot do it cheaply and as I say there are no shortcuts. We prepare people emotionally as best as we possibly can but still that's the biggest challenge we face.
Migrants must be tough and most people after one week on the ground are not thinking so much about damp housing, they are excited that everything works, there is electricity all day (the South Africans reading this will know what I'm talking about), the streets are safe to walk and the people are friendly.
As the weeks unfold the mood normally darkens somewhat as those insecurities build and the ‘What ifs’ ring louder in the mind, but we still have around 97% of our clients from South Africa and almost the same number from the rest of the world, securing employment within three months of getting off the plane.
Once they have that job offer, the sun comes out and life is worth living once again.
Until next week...
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Send the guy back to Johannesburg! What a silly reason. NZ is a wonderful country. There is just no comparison to down and out countries like Africa.????
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This post can't describe the path of getting of the plane and securing that job offer any better. This is the exact description of my five/six weeks in New Zealand....... the sun is out and I am happy, just missing the family while we will now all be waiting for the Visas, still not at the top but I trust I will soon be. Thank you.
This is just my opinion and not a dig at anyone. If you want to match what you had in SA or what you had in any other country you live / lived in then don't immigrate. No matter what country you move to things will be different, its no fairy tale. It is a gift if you are lucky to have enough points and the money to go through the process. If your new chosen country has accepted you and your family by giving you any type of visa, then be thankful and embrace what your new found country has to offer.
Our experience, having recently arrived in Wellington from South Africa, has been an entirely different one. In summary, my wife is adapting well in her new position and I am finding the labour market to be welcoming. We are very happy in Wellington and look forward to spending the Easter Weekend in Hawkes Bay with family and friends. We are certainly not looking back and look forward to settling here permanently. Overcoming the dampness and rainy weather is quite surmountable. Just grab a mocha and don't forget your raincoat. Paul, Iain, thank you once again - we would not have been able to do this without your consistent support and guidance.
Me and my wife came to New Zealand from Singapore last April and our first stop was in Wellington. Weather was erratic with winds hitting hard on your window in the early morning hours which for us only happen in horror movies. Rain was frequent and getting wet was a daily routine. The narrow winding roads especially in the city made driving challenging (please get a small car). But we managed to survive 3 months staying there till my job offer came from Hamilton and we had to pack up and head north.
This journey of ours was filled with many “first time”.First time cooking a full meal together as we have a helper who cooks for us and also food was always conveniently available back home. First time staying in a foreign land with no one to rely on except for google. First time searching for places to rent and coordinating all the logistics and miscellaneous stuff. It was a great survival lesson especially when we decided to make this decision, leaving our comfort zone and took up this challenge to make New Zealand our home.
We have since settled down well in Hamilton with our 2 fur kids which we have brought over. Both of us have been working for several months now and awaiting for our residency which my guess will just be days away. My advice to anyone who is thinking of coming to New Zealand. Expect the unexpected and always plan ahead. It will be handy if you have heaps of money as it’ll make the transition much easier. Mental strength is key and constantly encourage each other to keep going even through bad patches. Your bond will be strongest ever after this episode and trust me on that.
Jo from Immagine is our consulting advisor and she’s our guardian angel. There were moments when i just wanted to pack up and leave but her encouragement made me hang on to “fight” another day. Thanks Jo :)
All the very best my friends and wish you all every success in your move to a better life!
Hi there where can I find the blog about "The Six Week Wall?" Thanks
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My wife and I used your service to immigrate 4 years ago.
We have no children and due to qualifications we qualified for residence even before leaving South Africa.
I also kept my job (multinational, transferred to NZ arm of the company).
With ALL of that in our favour, plus a fair amount of savings, immigrating was still the most difficult thing my wife and I have done. It is not for the faint of heart.
That said, totally worth it.
LOL damp... different strokes I guess.
My biggest fear is that the IMAX website is correct, and the only NZ IMAX theatre is in Auckland. It takes me 3 minutes by superbike to my nearest IMAX Theatre, next closest is 30 min, and then 45min away. I'm also afraid that I may not be able to find the new Chipotle Tobasco in NZ
My mate Ant says he hasn't had a power failure or a water supply problem in the 4 years he's been in Auckland
An island in the Pacific with water and electricity sounds good to me ;)
Damp!! Really!! Our summers are not any different to the topic of damp on the lower South Coast and many places around South Africa. Yes we have our perfect hot summer days, beautiful as ever but with that brings days of rain with howling north easterly winds for weeks on end at times. Most fishermen will know this as well as the people who spend a lot of family time on our beautiful beaches.
We arrived in Wellington just short of two months ago. Yes there has been some windy days, dark skies, rainy days and cold days but what about the hot days, clear skies, flat beautiful seas, good fishing, abundance of kids parks, clean streets, friendly people, safe roads, no water shortages, no load shedding and most importantly a road to a better life. Yes the winters will be colder but not much of a difference to places like Johannesburg, Drakensberg, Cape Town etc to name a few.
To anyone out there making the big move for a better life, I won't lie, it is a tuff road in the beginning but it is what you make of it and what you want out of it. On touch down in Wellington NZ, I was straight into work 3 days later, still jetlagged and like a dear in the headlights. It was a massive change from owning my own business and now working for a company with a weekly salary. Within a week of working I felt a part of the team, was welcomed with arms wide open and really started to feel at home.
My family and I have settled well into a home, our 6+7 year old kids are enjoying school and all the parks and we are all loving our decision with our move. There are a lot more positives than negatives here, good luck and hope it all works out for others, chins up it will all be worth it in the end.
Thanks to everyone at Immagine, an incredible friendly and professional team.
Keep up the good work.
This post couldn't have come at a better time... 7 weeks in and feeling all the darkness you describe to expect at around 6 weeks (phew I'm normal).
This is hard, I just hope I can keep strong!
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Sometimes I am seriously embarrassed by my fellow countrymen. Innocent people are dying in South Africa, there are families that long to get out and throw everything at immigration... and yet... #damp.